Are you stuck in a metaphorical cave, afraid of what’s outside?

Nothing can stand still and, if you have read the fantastic book “Psycho Cybernetics” by Maxwell Maltz, you will understand that we human beings are purpose driven creatures and are happiest when we are moving towards the goals we have set ourselves.

It’s a law of the universe that everything is either growing or disintegrating so, if you're not moving forward, then you are slowly atrophying.

Now, if you look back to prehistoric times when our ancestors were hunter-gatherers, they lived in caves for safety from the carnivorous beasts that roamed outside. They usually only left the cave in groups armed with spears because they would have died of starvation had they not done so.

That sort of behaviour may have made sense when there really were sabre tooth tigers ready to attack you. However, tens of thousands of years later, getting eaten isn’t really a big issue, yet many people are still sitting in their metaphorical caves - afraid to venture outside.

And by that, I mean they stick with jobs they don't particularly like and have no passion for because they're scared of the dangers the outside world may hold for them.

But as we know, stagnation leads to deterioration and death whether that be mental, physical or spiritual.

The fact is the instincts that are there to preserve you from live threatening situations are no longer relevant in the modern world. You are not going to get eaten if you leave your job, yet fear prevents many people from doing it.

We all experience fear - without exception. The difference is people who set up and run successful businesses must learn to push through that fear barrier to the other side where happiness and freedom live.

To use my own story as an example: I started my career as a well-paid solicitor in a top law firm in London. For many people that may well be their dream job; certainly, my parents and my contemporaries all believed it to be a good career.  I am not sure how I ever ended up doing a law degree and going to law school. It just sort of happened. I suppose I found the exams easy and was reasonably good at the actual work even though I found it boring.

It took me a few years, but I eventually acknowledged that I had made a mistake - the legal and corporate world was not for me. I simply wasn't able to be who I wanted to be. Going to work each morning used to fill me with a sense of dread. I used to come out of Blackfriars station in the morning along with thousands of other anonymous, dark suited, brief-cased professionals and feeling like we were all rats pressed together scurrying down the road worried about being late. I remember I frequently had the passing thought of stepping in front of one of the buses going up Fleet Street.  Fortunately, I always knew there must be a better alternative.

So, I weighed up the highly paid career on one hand and following my own path on the other – whatever that may be. I looked at the partners in the firms I worked for who were earning hundreds of thousands of pounds a year and asked myself: “Do I want the sort of life they have?” To me, they all seemed unhappy and stressed. They worked 12-hour days and had little social or family life.

For me, it was not such a difficult decision. Even in my 20s I was aware of the importance of being true to yourself if you want to be happy. And I knew being in that job was never going to make me happy. There was no way I was going to spend the rest of my life doing that even if it was well paid.

Now, I must admit one of the things my friends tell me they admire about me is that I am quite fearless about starting something new and I've done it several times throughout my career.  So, I just decided to quit.

I had little in the way of savings, and I had no sort of safety net or guaranteed income; just an idea of what I wanted to do and the faith that it would work out. So, even for me, that was quite a bold move.

The one and only time in my life I've had a panic attack was when the enormity of what I'd done hit me as I was getting ready to go to work in the new office I had leased and I had to start the process of getting clients and making money in my new business.

That was over 20+ years ago, and whilst there have been plenty of ups and downs - I've sold companies for millions and I've been broke during that period - I've never regretted it.  

I was a young man at the time without any family commitments and I appreciate that most people will not have the same attitude as me and may well have family commitments and responsibilities.

In any event, I would not recommend just giving up your job immediately as ultimately it can be self-defeating if you put too much pressure on yourself to make your new venture work.

But you can start making preparations whilst you still have your job.

If you are at the stage where you recognise you are not happy in your career, but you don't know yet what your purpose and passion in life is, the best thing to do is some personal development work to find out what it is that you really love doing and then find a way to start generating income from that activity.  Because there will be a way to make a living from it and even if it won’t make you rich it you will spend your days doing what you love – and that’s what counts.

The next step, once you have established your passion, is to block out time in your calendar to devote to creating your new business. Be disciplined with it. Make it sacrosanct so that you will not get pulled away by any external distractions. I find that getting up early and studying whilst everyone else is still asleep works best for me, but you may be more of an evening person. It doesn't matter, just make sure you are disciplined enough to stick to it and let your family know not to disturb you during that time. After all you are doing it for their benefit as well. 

Focus on studying about both business and creating the right mindset for success. Having the right attitude and mindset is the most critical factor for success in any business, but you clearly need to have an understanding of business basics such as company set up, finance, sales and marketing and any regulatory issues that affect your particular business. 

It will no doubt take a good few months, maybe longer, but sooner or later you will be generating enough income from your side business to give you the confidence to ‘leave your cave’ and venture into the world of the spiritual entrepreneur.

The crucial factor if you are going to overcome the fear of leaving your cave, is that you must have faith that you won’t ‘get eaten alive’, and that people and things will appear to help you that you would never have imagined. You must believe that it will turn out all right, if you follow your heart, and not let set ups get you down to the point where you give up.

If you want help finding your passion or purpose just let me know and I can send you a video and some exercises to help you with the process of establishing your purpose.

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